Comments on: Hospice & mom update & me update http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update Private Life Wed, 01 Feb 2012 22:20:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: turtlegrrl13 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1096 turtlegrrl13 Wed, 20 Feb 2008 22:21:43 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1096 You probably know this stuff, but here I go anyway. Hospice staff are usually much more sympathetic and have a much nicer bed side manner. My grandmother was in hospice on and off for 2 years. Hospice usually takes place in a nursing one and they won't make you leave if you are no longer on hospice. Hospice really means that yes that person will die soon, but it is not something you pay for. That's why many people remain in the space but go on and off of hospice because the government doesn't want to foot the bill. From my experience, everyone at hospice is much better to deal with. They know that everyone involved is having a hard time and they do everything to make things at good as possible. With that said, it's good that you are talking about how you are doing. No one expects you to be doing great. Just keep trying to talk. You need to grieve and go through all those stages. I know you mentioned a counselor. What about acupuncture? It helped a lot with emotions/depression. If it is ever something you would be interested in, let me know. It can be like a mini counseling session and you talk a lot. I just don't give advice. Just needles. Overall I am glad that you have friends to turn to. Wish I could deliver the girl for ya. You are always in my thoughts. XOX You probably know this stuff, but here I go anyway.
Hospice staff are usually much more sympathetic and have a much nicer bed side manner. My grandmother was in hospice on and off for 2 years. Hospice usually takes place in a nursing one and they won’t make you leave if you are no longer on hospice. Hospice really means that yes that person will die soon, but it is not something you pay for. That’s why many people remain in the space but go on and off of hospice because the government doesn’t want to foot the bill. From my experience, everyone at hospice is much better to deal with. They know that everyone involved is having a hard time and they do everything to make things at good as possible.

With that said, it’s good that you are talking about how you are doing. No one expects you to be doing great. Just keep trying to talk. You need to grieve and go through all those stages.

I know you mentioned a counselor. What about acupuncture? It helped a lot with emotions/depression. If it is ever something you would be interested in, let me know. It can be like a mini counseling session and you talk a lot. I just don’t give advice. Just needles.

Overall I am glad that you have friends to turn to. Wish I could deliver the girl for ya. You are always in my thoughts.
XOX

]]> By: gkr http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1095 gkr Wed, 20 Feb 2008 19:03:43 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1095 At this point, I mean both of those definitions. At this point, I mean both of those definitions.

]]> By: gargoylettelc http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1094 gargoylettelc Wed, 20 Feb 2008 19:00:26 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1094 When you say 'provider', do you mean the particular person who will be coming out, or the program/company providing services? You do have the right to ask that another RN, PT, etc come out to provide services if you do not get along/work well with a particular individual. (most folks don't realize that) When you say ‘provider’, do you mean the particular person who will be coming out, or the program/company providing services? You do have the right to ask that another RN, PT, etc come out to provide services if you do not get along/work well with a particular individual. (most folks don’t realize that)

]]> By: calimbrium http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1093 calimbrium Wed, 20 Feb 2008 15:36:23 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1093 you should call me or something when you're in the neighborhood. we need to do lunch or something. i'd like to come visit your ma and pa sometime soon, if that's alright. let me know when would be good, and i can schedule it in. :) i should still take your mom up on the offer of crash space for a Baker trip, huh? hm...... there's more, but i'm late for work. ha. love you, too. you should call me or something when you’re in the neighborhood. we need to do lunch or something.

i’d like to come visit your ma and pa sometime soon, if that’s alright. let me know when would be good, and i can schedule it in. :) i should still take your mom up on the offer of crash space for a Baker trip, huh? hm……

there’s more, but i’m late for work. ha.
love you, too.

]]> By: malackey http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1092 malackey Wed, 20 Feb 2008 14:01:17 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1092 Congratulations on the new niece/nephew you'll soon have. That's wonderful news. I hope your mom will be around, and in reasonably good health, to meet the baby. Congratulations on the new niece/nephew you’ll soon have. That’s wonderful news. I hope your mom will be around, and in reasonably good health, to meet the baby.

]]> By: insolent http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1091 insolent Wed, 20 Feb 2008 12:10:57 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1091 I never know what to say as I'm terrible with this stuff, but your family is in my thoughts a lot. Thanks for updating--I wish your mom well. I never know what to say as I’m terrible with this stuff, but your family is in my thoughts a lot. Thanks for updating–I wish your mom well.

]]> By: webcowgirl http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1090 webcowgirl Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:43:55 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1090 I can tell you a few places I've kayaked near where you are - Anacortes and just right off the shore near ... er, the scenic drive place. Chuckanut? I saw petrified palm trees. (And I took classes <a href="http://www.nwoc.com/classes/default.asp?page=classes" rel="nofollow">here</a>.) Kayaking was really a good way for me to get away from stress - I was overwhemled with information and forced to pay so much attention to my body I just couldn't think of much else. Second suggestion: add <lj user=copperwise>, who's had to deal with getting her senile dad into a hospice, with him fighting all the way. It's been another great case of grace under pressure (and also what I'm "looking forward to" in either another ten years or, who knows, two). Tell her I sent you. She writes funny stuff, too. I can tell you a few places I’ve kayaked near where you are – Anacortes and just right off the shore near … er, the scenic drive place. Chuckanut? I saw petrified palm trees. (And I took classes here.) Kayaking was really a good way for me to get away from stress – I was overwhemled with information and forced to pay so much attention to my body I just couldn’t think of much else.

Second suggestion: add , who’s had to deal with getting her senile dad into a hospice, with him fighting all the way. It’s been another great case of grace under pressure (and also what I’m “looking forward to” in either another ten years or, who knows, two). Tell her I sent you. She writes funny stuff, too.

]]> By: gkr http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1089 gkr Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:38:58 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1089 I might when it gets warmer. I might when it gets warmer.

]]> By: webcowgirl http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1088 webcowgirl Wed, 20 Feb 2008 09:36:52 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1088 This was a great post, thank you. I know it may not make much sense but I kind of feel like hearing about my friends dealing with these things is good prep for when I will (likely) have to deal with it. And you're really ... I don't know what to say, but I'm really proud of you. I'm sorry there's no girlie to hug and love you but you probably wouldn't have a lot of bandwidth for her right now - you've got a lot on your mind. Sorry I can't come up to visit you and tell you stupid things and play games and make you forget about life for an hour or two. (Suggestion of the day: there's nice places to kayak up where you are, you might enjoy getting out on the water now and then.) This was a great post, thank you. I know it may not make much sense but I kind of feel like hearing about my friends dealing with these things is good prep for when I will (likely) have to deal with it. And you’re really … I don’t know what to say, but I’m really proud of you. I’m sorry there’s no girlie to hug and love you but you probably wouldn’t have a lot of bandwidth for her right now – you’ve got a lot on your mind.

Sorry I can’t come up to visit you and tell you stupid things and play games and make you forget about life for an hour or two. (Suggestion of the day: there’s nice places to kayak up where you are, you might enjoy getting out on the water now and then.)

]]> By: gkr http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1087 gkr Wed, 20 Feb 2008 08:40:52 +0000 http://www.kingrat.us/2008/02/hospice-mom-update-me-update#comment-1087 Accepting hospice won't be a problem. Accepting this particular provider might be. We'll see tomorrow. Accepting hospice won’t be a problem. Accepting this particular provider might be. We’ll see tomorrow.

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