Comments on: 24 hours

By: gearwife

gearwife — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 07:48:09 +0000

Then we shall all just be present and try to remind each other to smile. I shall seek catalogs of boots…you can be in charge of locating hot girls to model them… :)

Meanwhile, I am just focusing on being present and more available for J. I will do what I am told as I can. I sometimes struggle with the dynamics of things and desire to be more vocal/proactive- alas that is not my place to do so. Thus, I am cutting obligations, trying to take on more personal tasks from J and awaiting his instructions.

I’m always around if ya wanna grab lunch or something and to chat it up (or strategize) (or to vent) (or to be distracted)…for whatever that may be worth…

By: gkr

gkr — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 07:39:35 +0000

I don’t know what there is anyone can do.

By: gearwife

gearwife — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 07:36:41 +0000

**Sigh**

You’re correct. What do we do next? J was with D today and will be there this weekend. I just changed my schedule at work to be more available. Tell me what to do. Where can I help more? I am at a loss. I want to be helpful, but not in the way.

I struggle with balancing dignity with sanity. I understand the need for independence, but see it is not possible.

A tough road lies ahead…Although I luv ya just fine, I wish we could come together over different types of situations…I wish you and I could bond over checking out boots rather than constantly evaluating life.

By: la_roja

la_roja — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 03:16:26 +0000

I’m sorry to hear that. It would be an impossibly hard thing to face even if she wasn’t resisting it. :(

By: evillinn

evillinn — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:56:03 +0000

I’m really sorry, sweetie. I wish there were something of value to say. You are doing the right thing in your efforts to stay flexible yet firm. I’m sorry that this is on your shoulders, but I’m glad that your family has you.

By: spaceling

spaceling — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 15:39:57 +0000

Bad news all around. I am sending my hopes for a solution that will ease the burden and worry from you and her other caregivers, and also for one with which she will be comfortable.

By: gargoylettelc

gargoylettelc — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 15:28:03 +0000

I’m sorry to hear this. I do think you are right for putting your foot down at this point. Good caregivers can be hard to find, and I see the wide range daily, but she needs it at this point, and unfortunately doesn’t have the luxury of time to shop around. It’s a matter of safety at this point. Hang in there!!

By: faerieburst

faerieburst — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 12:52:55 +0000

I am keeping my fingers crossed that the long shot works. She sounds very much like she wants every moment of independence she can get.

You are in my thoughts, darlin’.

~Aramada

By: the1pony

the1pony — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 07:20:33 +0000

Accepting that one can no longer be independant is damned hard. My mom had a hell of a time with it. I hope your folks can accept the truth and do what needs doing soon.

By: a_muse_d

a_muse_d — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 07:14:22 +0000

i hope they accept the extra care. it doesn’t sound like any good to be where she’s at.